Year: 2021

Why thank you!

Hi, there lovely readers! Continuing on my ‘Hey Miss Jane’ career tips series, I was recently reminded of just how heart-warming and valuable a humble thank you can be.  Let me tell you a story about a recent, wonderful candidate.

Georgina had been Chief Financial Officer in the same company for 25 years and as you can imagine, was a tad shell-shocked when the role became redundant. The conversation went thus:

Georgina: Jane I simply don’t know where to start? And I must say I’ve never experienced this unsettling feeling before, not even when my girls headed off to Europe for their gap year!

Jane: It is uncomfortable isn’t it, and I’m going to help you alleviate this feeling by having us start at the very beginning, what do you think?

G: Oh yes, please! (As she thrust a bag of her homemade rocky road into my hands, the first of many – making great vats of the stuff was Georgina’s stress reliever)

G: (four weeks and four bags of rocky road later) Now that my fabulous marketing materials have landed me this interview, and we’ve practised preparing my responses and I’m almost confident to negotiate my wage if I’m the successful applicant, any parting wisdom?

J: Just be you, Georgina. Oh! And don’t forget to send a thank-you note to each of your interviewers after the event, it’s a nice little touch and likely to make you memorable long after you’ve left the building.

The thank-you note. To me, it’s the easiest way to leave a lasting impression yet why do we so often neglect to do so? My career transitioning candidates roll their eyes when I remind them to send a quick thank-you note after each interaction –  post network meeting, in response to a LinkedIn skills endorsement, a network connection, or post-interview. Yet it takes but a second.

And what better way to remain in the interviewer’s hearts and minds after you’ve thanked that audience, left the building, and now await that call to say you are the chosen one?

You see, the human brain is programmed to compress experiences into three phases: The beginning, the peak, and the end. In the case of a networking conversation or job interview, we tend to put more focus on creating a fabulous first impression, yet how we follow up can play a critical role in how we’re remembered afterwards. In this era of e-communication, a thoughtful thank-you note matters more than ever and costs us nothing but a couple of moments. Let me share five simple steps to crafting the perfect thank-you note…

Put it on paper

It’s easy to send a quick thank-you note via email right after you leave an interview or network chat however if your inbox is anything like mine, that email is apt to get lost in the pile of electronic communications, especially if it’s not urgent. Why not cut through that clutter by sending a small paper note? Writing on paper will also have the benefit of forcing you to be more thoughtful about what you’re writing.

Make it personal

A thank you note can be forgettable or memorable. Instead of a generic “thank you for your time,” why not tell the person what you specifically appreciated about your meeting. Were there particular qualities in the encounter that stood out in your mind? A moment that demonstrated why you would want to work there? Something you’d like the interviewer/networker to know you took away from the conversation? Assume others are also sending a thank you note, and personalise yours, so it stands out as unique. Oh! And if you’re sending more than one thank you note, take the extra time to make each one unique for we can easily sound disingenuous if our recipients compare notes and realise we took the easy way out and copied/pasted.

Be real but be neat

Writing out your note in longhand is a small window into your personality. Penmanship may be a dying art, therefore, ensuring your writing is legible and neat will help put your best (type)face forward. I pride myself on my handwriting however when in a hurry, have been known to write in brail. Hurried chicken scratch writing won’t reflect well on you. Take care especially to make sure your signature is readable, so they know who sent the note.

Anyone you missed?

A thank you should not be reserved for the people with the loftiest titles. Who else helped you? A receptionist who worked on the meeting’s scheduling? Current employees with whom you privately chatted to get a sense of the workplace culture? Take a moment to thank these people as well. Such sweet gestures can often lead to these connections putting in a good word for you. Sometimes it’s people on the periphery that can make all the difference in a close decision. Case in point – the first person my old boss used to turn to for an opinion on someone he’d just interviewed was our Receptionist, followed by the Personal Assistants.

Still in doubt?

I recently observed a debate between recruiters in a LinkedIn group where one had asked the question ‘What methodology do you use to help make the decision between two perfect candidates?’ The overwhelming response was ‘The first one who bothers to send me a thank you for the interview.’

G: (via excited phone call) I’ve just been offered the job!! I’m so excited! And you want to know something interesting? The recruiter said that the panel struggled to single out the best of the three contenders for the role and apparently it was my thank you notes that cinched the deal. It worked! AND when we have our wrap up meeting, I’m bringing a triple bag of rocky road!

J. But your stress must have eased thanks to this great news?

G: Haa, haa, while I was waiting to hear whether I had landed the role or not I knocked up three batches of the stuff! 

Any great stories of your own? Do share in the chat box below 🙂

Journaling? The solution to your worries – here’s why…

Hey Miss Jane!
Losing my job during this current COVID lockdown couldn’t have come at a worse time, I’m feeling so overwhelmed!

Hello, there lovely readers. I hope you are keeping safe during our latest spate of lockdowns. After mutual introductions recently, a client voiced his concern about losing his job, on top of dealing with COVID lockdown. I asked him what had helped him the most when dealing with past monumental changes. ‘Writing all the junk floating around in my head down on paper at the time helped me make sense of it all and cleared my mind to focus on what I was still able to control’, he responded. ‘Ah, so you found Journaling helpful then, have you thought to try this again?‘Journaling?’ he said, ‘What’s that?’ 

Journalling? Wait! Did I just hear a collective sigh?

How we deal with job loss or any major upheaval depends on several factors. Age, our family, lifestyle and financial situations, past experiences, our natural disposition to handling change, to name a few – each playing a part in how we cope with such momentous events. Lockdown is no exception. My client was surprised to learn that Journaling has had a huge resurgence since the advent of COVID; people using this methodology to document their journey, make sense of where they are at or exercise gratitude.

With any major personal upheaval, we are thrown way out of our comfort zone.  Shock, anger, denial, worry, resistance, potential depression are just some of the emotions we may experience. The thing is, we don’t stop methodically at each of these stations. Wouldn’t it be convenient if we could exclaim – ‘Shhh! Don’t disturb me; I’m on my worry day; hand me my worry beads, a jug of wine, then bugger off!’ Nope! It’s human nature to ricochet back and forth thanks to our emotional state on the day. Enter the journal. Documenting and processing our feelings and emotions helps us make sense of this new reality. It’s only then that we can move on, and in my client’s case, forge a job search action plan.

Journalling is not for everybody. But for many, it offers an opportunity to clear the head and make sense of swirling emotions and negative thoughts. When I feel overwhelmed and need to still the chattering monkeys, I reach for my journal. It just works.

Ok! You’ve decided to give it a go, purchased your smart-looking journal, and you’re now wondering what next?

Here’s a start – before turning the lights out, open your journal and put your favourite pen on the paper. Now write the first thing that comes into your head…a thought, a feeling, an emotion, a good thing that happened, a bad one, people you interacted with, a memorable snippet of conversation, a quote you liked, something you learnt…doesn’t matter what you write, write. Now here comes the liberating part.

If you are feeling troubled, write down all the contributing factors. Yes, list them. Every single one of them, big or small. All of ’em! Now review each point and ask yourself, ‘Is there anything I can do about this one?’ If the answer is ‘nope, it’s beyond my control’ – your job being made redundant, for instance – cross it off the list. Permit yourself to put a big line through it! Repeat with each point until you are left with only those you can control. Now remind yourself that you will never waste another moment of your valuable energy dwelling on those that fell on the cutting floor.

If worry is your middle name, why not take a leaf from Dale Carnegie’s perennial book ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living’ and think to yourself – what is the absolute worst that could happen, yes, the absolute worst…then ask yourself how likely is that actually to occur? Work back from there on steps you would take to avoid that happening in the first place, and suddenly, what might have felt insurmountable just lost its spotlight, for you are already planning. This leads to the good part!

Look at the remaining points and think of just one action you will take to address each one, one by one. Just one action (baby steps) per point. Once done, take just three action steps (remember, baby steps) you can readily implement tomorrow and write them on a fresh page. Now commit yourself to put these into action when you wake.

Oh! And before you close that journal, just one more thing!

Write down ‘just one thing’ you were grateful for today. A roof over your head, a lovely chat with a friend, the joy of your child’s laughter, your partner’s embrace, the dog’s unwavering loyalty, the food on your table, nice weather… you get the gist. If all else fails, might I suggest a thought for the many who are worse off in our war-torn COVID disruptive world? And now for the best part of this journey…

Soon you’ll be writing more and more positives and a whole lot fewer negatives. That false bravado will move from ‘fakin’ it to makin’ it’, and the next exciting chapter of your life will start to unfold. During the journey, your journal may move on to become your constant companion, or it may just emerge for troubling occasions; it doesn’t matter. Mine? It continues to serve as a gratitude journal. Cue collective sigh…why not give it a go?

NB: Employee Assistance Programs (EAP), Counsellors and Psychologists are invaluable support mechanisms, don’t be afraid to seek their guidance. For immediate need, reach out to BeyondBlue (24 hrs a day, 7 days a week) 1300 22 4636.

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