Nurture

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In honour of my Dads

I loved my Dads. Both of them. Birth-dad. Step-dad. Though they never met in this life, the pair no doubt busy slaying those in the next with classic Dad jokes, after all, that’s what Dads do and today as we celebrate Father’s Day, my chance to honour them.

Never experienced the love of my birth-dad first hand for Mum, at the tender age of 20, bid him farewell, packed a few books, two-year-old me and headed west. Governess, Jillaroo, Pub Chef, Telephonist, not a thing that woman couldn’t put her mind to, including an impressive ability to stay ‘mum’ about my father. Evan. The Journalist. The man whose lust for her very impressive breasts had led to my conception. So why do I love him? Well, he gave me the opportunity to meet my Mum. 

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Munchkin Jane

Evan also gave me the pleasure of three half-siblings. When meeting them for the first time in my mid-30s – the same laugh, same humour, same mannerisms, love of writing, of MC Escher’s work – a beautiful, genetically engineered puzzle piece fell into place. An intense, intrinsic connection – I’d found my ‘kin’. And doubled my sibling count.  

While Evan was generating said siblings, Mum was hanging up her nomadic boots and succumbing to a man who, in adoration and with a tad of recklessness, whisked her and her daughter away to an outback sheep station. A place of dusty plains, Gidgee trees, red gibber rocks, flies, swelter and spectacular sunsets. Ian. The Mechanic. Should have been a cowboy I know but Mum found them notoriously unreliable.

Ian taught me how to ride a bicycle, shoot a gun, skin a ‘roo; the secrets to finding my way back to the homestead should I ever lose myself on the vast acres, how to put a whole duck
egg yolk in my mouth without it oozing down my chin. He also tenderly brushed my hair before bed, vetoed my first boyfriends and continued to love my mother as evidenced by my other three siblings whom I absolutely adore. Nappy changes, bathing, feeding, reading to them, watching them grow into the grounded, loving, beautiful adults they are today, how could I not.

Seems I’m one of the lucky ones. Two dads, six siblings, a magnificent Mum who continues to inspire (their’s too). The people who shaped the person I am today – a city girl, a country gal. A woman with a love of writing, an insatiable wanderlust and the uncanny ability to always find her way back home…and into their arms.  

Here’s to the Dad’s today – Happy Father’s Day, wherever you are.


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Evan and Jacqueline – Feb ’56

 

Six tips from the bedroom…

I’m having a passionate affair.

With my bed. Damn I love my bed. And you know what? That’s OK. You see, my bed’s not just a place for snoozing, Netflix marathons and mobile chats with my posse – my mecca of relaxation is also home to self-improvement, productivity, and spiritual wellbeing. 

Soft lighting, scented candle, Angus & Julia Stone on rotation, crisp fresh sheets post bubble bath…the ultimate relaxation at the end of the day. Lingering that extra 30 minutes next morning, Nespresso in hand, a gentle way to acquaint with the coming day. 

Next time you’re tempted to turn in early or can’t entertain the thought of getting out from under the covers just yet, stop feeling guilty and try one of these ways to make the most of your time in bed.

1) Breathe

John Hamm (Don Draper - Mad Men)It’s well known that deep breathing exercises provide positive mental and physical benefits, from stimulating the lymphatic system and increasing blood flow to reducing fatigue, alleviating stress and reeling back anxiety. All from the comfort of your beloved bed! 

Experts recommend first exhaling any remaining breath in your lungs so that you can take the deepest breath possible. Then, breathe in through your nose for three seconds, hold for three seconds, and exhale for six seconds. Repeat at least three times and reap the benefits.

2) Clear the Head

For me meditation can be quite challenging. The minute I try my brain’s like ‘Old MacDonald had a farm ei ei oh look a squirrel cornflakes blue sky heyyy Macarena!‘ But the benefits you can reap from even a few minutes of meditation are seriously fabulous, for who doesn’t want to ease stress and anxiety, increase long term focus, open previously unknown creative centers in the mind? Worth a try don’t you think?

Needing a little help to get going I turned to an elegant little app called ‘Buddify’. No need to get out of bed—just get comfy and use the five, 10, or 20 minute meditation journeys to jump start self-improvement, success, and productivity. Want to get serious? Try the renowned ‘Headspace’ app – and be guided along the path to enlightenment by the dulcet tones of Andy.  

3) Write 

Sure I personally love to write, however everyone can benefit. Reflecting on the day and jotting down key memories, inner thoughts and fleeting ideas can clear the mind for deeper thinking. While sleeping the subconscious goes to work and often upon waking, ideas and solutions start flowing. Studies show that keeping a regular journal as an adult can actually supercharge your productivity.  (see post Oh the Mighty Word

Alternatively? Write first thing in the morning. A method called morning pages recommends writing 750 words in a stream of consciousness when you first rise. A great way to clear your head, so you can focus on what is most important for the day. 

I keep a hardy journal that includes a mix of blank pages, some dotted, others plain by my bedside. It’s riddled with quotes, inspiring ideas, doodles, plans and strategies from my restless pen. Going paperless? Try ‘Paper’ by FiftyThree or ‘Bamboo Paper’ both nifty little apps ideal for note taking, doodling and sketching.

4) Plan 

Experts recommend using a weekly planning system to get your thoughts, to-dos, and schedule organized. Grab that planner or computer and spend a few extra minutes under the covers organizing your time for the next few days or week.

Be sure to block out time for goal setting, refocusing, and even resetting your brain between those important meetings and concrete tasks. 

A list person? Try the ‘Reminders’ app. Need more? I love ‘aNote’ app for quick jots and ‘Daily Notes’ for journaling and both connect with ‘Evernote’ the seriously super curation app for instant mobility. Love a good brainstorm? ‘iThoughts HD’ is my favourite big-gun go to here. Check ’em out at your App Store.

5) Read


IMG_9149One study demonstrated that reading fiction can increase your empathy, helpful for improving relationships with both family and work teams. Improved analytical thinking and memory are also cited among the benefits of reading.

Reading from your iPad or tablet? Research says the short wave length blue light of our electronic devices can disrupt our sleeping patterns. Instead try a good old fashioned book or indulge in a Kindle Touch. I love mine for it emits non disruptive light, I can read in the dark and it turns itself off if I fall asleep. (It also downloads new reads instantly and insanely cheaply from Amazon!) 

Reading before bed will help you get in a relaxed mindset beneficial for falling asleep, so that you can wake up and function productively. Unless of course you’re in the middle of a thriller, in which case all bets are off. 

6) Cuddle

Cuddling may not feel associated with productivity, but there are actually surprising benefits that can directly link to your success.

Cuddles release a hormone called oxytocin, which makes you feel good and connected to other people. It boosts the immune system, reduces anxiety and stress, and even lowers the risk of heart disease, such benefits leading to a healthier body and mind. Go on…snuggle up! No need to elaborate on the benefits of what that might lead to 🙂 

The next time you’re feeling guilty about whiling away hours in your bed, have fun with these tips while remembering the relationship between productivity and relaxation—you must have both for a successful career and life. Sweet dreams!

 John Hamm (Don Draper - Mad Men)
John Hamm as Don Draper – MadMen. image from http://www.zap2it.com 

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