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2020 – it’s all about work AND play!

Well hello lovely readers, welcome to 2020! It’s gonna be a good year, a good decade, don’t you think? And Indulge Divulge is here to help make it so. Designed to nurture in both work and play, this year, the blog will focus on self-love – looking after YOU. 

If your inner dialogue is no longer enamoured with the ‘I work longer hours than you do’ badge of honour, isn’t it time to stop, pause and reflect? After all, burnout and the associated mental health issues only benefit your Psyche and Doctor, not you, your loved ones or your employer. Soooo…let’s start by looking at finding a little more self-nurturing balance here, OK? 

One of my work colleagues enjoys exercising her artistic muscles. Digital, paint, acrylics, charcoal, pencils, crayons, Instagram layout, you name it. So much so that she consciously puts aside time from her work and a demanding young family to focus on this, her form of self-nurturing. It’s meditative and gives her creative satisfaction, reflecting in her family interactions and work. 

Having an enjoyable hobby—whether creating a patchwork quilt for your bestie’s new baby, hitting the ski slopes of Japan’s latest resort or practising pirouettes in ballet class—there are all sorts of well-documented benefits, from lower levels of stress to increased sense of belonging and purpose. As proven by my colleague, hobbies can make you more focused and enthusiastic when you’re on the job, and, depending on the hobby, the associated skills you gain can also make you better at your job.  

So, having a hobby that you love can do good things for your life and your job, but what if you don’t actually have a hobby you enjoy? You’re not alone. I frequently hear from transitioning candidates ‘I don’t have any hobbies other than ferrying the kids to and from theirs, my life just feels like all work and no play’. Sadly, ‘all work’ didn’t keep them their jobs now, did it? 

There are plenty of people who don’t have or don’t know how to find a hobby. But that doesn’t mean they can’t find one. Whether you’re 25 or 85 years old—it’s never too late to hop on board the hobby train! Here are a few strategies you can use to find a hobby you truly love.

1. Transform existing pleasures into a hobby

Even if you don’t have something that you consider a hobby, you’ll have activities that you enjoy. Chances are, there’s a way to transform these into a full-fledged hobby. I like to ask my candidates what they enjoy doing for fun. Such things as ‘eating’ or ‘watching sports’ could easily be turned into hobbies such as ‘taking cooking classes’ or ‘joining a hockey team.’

Have you watched every stand-up special on Netflix…twice? Try taking an improv class. Is your favourite part of the day playing with your dog? Try volunteering with a rescue organization. Love reading about random pop culture facts on the internet? Try joining a trivia team.

My example? I love writing, and I love to travel. My blog actually originated from a desire to write about my travels. In turn, this means I know how to build websites, and I’m good at helping people articulate their brand in written form – both beneficial to my job. Figuring out how to build off the things you already love to do is the easiest way to find hobbies that you’ll enjoy—making you a better, more well-rounded person and employee. 

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Killing small talk…

Unseasonably warm isn’t it?  

Hello, lovelies. Christmas. I personally love it. Particularly the ‘we simply must have drinks before Christmas darling!’ spike in my calendar of events. But not everyone enjoys the socialising aspect of the festive season. “All that bloody small talk, I never know what to say, particularly at the office Xmas party where I feel obliged to talk to people I don’t even know!” cried one particularly distressed friend. I said gurl, I have just the thing for you and sent a link to this post, originally published in 2018.  Her response? “Babe you may have just saved my liver for I can now substitute gulping confidence-building alcohol with great conversation!” (love that reader!!) For all of you suffering the same fate – here’s a repost:

Ever found yourself plunged into the realm of small talk and struggling to come up with something more interesting than the weather? Stared at a dating site pondering witty/clever/  sophisticated questions to ask an interested party?  A co-worker in an elevator, an acquaintance at an industry event, a complete stranger at a networking event? It happens to us all. ‘Yes, it is unseasonably warm for this time of year isn’t it?’ Boring.

Let’s kill the small talk!

If you’ve found yourself talking about topics you have no interest in or have already discussed one too many times—just for something to say, check out this great little article by Aja Frost (making small talk so much easier). After reviewing, I started throwing a few out there and along the way, managed to learn fabulous things about people that I’d never have picked up in ‘normal’ conversation. No more awkward silences or boring small talk folks! Here’s a starter kit of unexpected, thought-provoking questions that will evoke more than a mere yes or no response. And there’s something for everyone!

For the culture cravers…

  1. Are you reading any good books right now? How about shows? What would you recommend?
  2. Do you have any podcast suggestions for my commute?
  3. What’s the last movie that made you cry? Or laugh aloud?
  4. Whom would you want to be your Amazing Race partner?
  5. If they made a movie about you, which movie star would you choose to play you? Your family members? Why?

 For the foodies…

  1. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  2. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?
  3. What’s your go-to comfort food? Or the food your Mum always made for you on your birthday?
  4. Does your family have any “secret” or famous recipes?
  5. What’s your favourite restaurant that other people might not know about

For late-night reveries…

  1. If you were in charge of picking the eighth wonder of the world, what would you choose?
  2. What do you wish you had placed in a time capsule 15 years ago?
  3. What’s the strangest compliment you’ve ever received?
  4. Have you ever thought of a cool invention or company, only to discover someone had already invented or started it?
  5. What would be your ideal superpower?
  6. BONUS Q: If you could invite 5 people, dead or alive, to your dinner party, who would you choose? Why?

For the work buddies…

  1. If you weren’t working here, what would you probably be doing right now?
  2. What’s the craziest thing a boss has ever asked you to do?
  3. Would you rather work four 10-hour days or five eight-hour days?
  4. If you were guaranteed to be successful, what job would you want?
  5. What’s the best career advice you’ve ever received? How about the worst?

 For the travel-hungry…

  1. If you could fly anywhere for free, where would you go?
  2. What’s the coolest road trip you’ve ever been on?
  3. Where’s the last place you traveled? What did you do there?
  4. If you could take a workcation or sabbatical, where would you go and what would you do?
  5. What’s your favourite thing to do around here on the weekends?

For the daters…

  1. What did you think you were going to be when you grew up?
  2. Do you have any hidden talents or surprising hobbies?
  3. What was the must-have accessory or item when you were growing up?
  4. What’s the most unbelievable thing that’s ever happened to you?
  5. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

Bet just asking one or two of these questions and you’ll be engaged for hours. Best order another wine (sorry liver)!

What questions do you like to ask to jumpstart a cool discussion?

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