Confess

For those Schadenfreude moments

City versus country gal…heading into the west

Hi there lovely readers…you’ve probably noticed that one of the tabs in my blog is titled ‘Confess’. Interestingly, in a world full of blogs banging on about the meaning of life (’42’ of course), love and the universe, it’s the posts that sit in the confess category that seem to resonate with you the most. As evidenced when, some years ago and despite my ‘manage your personal brand’ mantra, I exposed a tad of vulnerability while ruminating on the demise of a brief relationship. The response from supportive friends was overwhelming; and the need to document my adventurous childhood mentioned in that post – more so. Thus was born the beginning of the story on how I, as a genuine country gal, came to learning how to ‘skin a ‘roo’…

You see, I had dated a big burly country boy who, after a week spent sprinkling passionate adoration upon me, exclaimed ‘I love you Jane, but we are poles apart – you’re a classy city girl, and I’m just a country boy, this is never going to work.’ A subtle grenade dropped as we were clearing the aftermath of a lovely little introductory candlelit dinner party I’d just hosted for six of my closest. ‘I can skin a ‘roo with the best of ‘em mate!’ I retorted as he exited the building as swift as a summer storm. ‘And I’m as tough as the best of them too’ – whispered as the tears started to well.

Bloody well right I can skin a kangaroo sport! But would I want to? No. If I had to? Yes. You see, burly boy, this ‘classy city girl’ was once a country gal herself! Let me tell you my story…

Heading into the west…

The day ‘Nipples’ our ’Ute (so named for her close resemblance to the colour of Mum’s allegedly magnificent areola) juddered across a shallow grid flanked by two tree trunks hewn straight and solid and topped with a timber plinth proudly branded with the property’s name, my life as a townie ended.

Dad let out a low whistle. “Well, would you just look at that ‘ey?” Before us squatted a series of hodgepodge buildings, like Pilgrims wagons, gathered around the edges of a dusty, gibber strewn quadrangle the size of two football fields – fitting, given the hours we’d just spent making our pilgrimage to this dry, dust-bound pseudo-Dallas ranch. The year was 1964. The Vietnamese war was escalating, the Beatles were taking the world by storm, the space race was in full swing, Tokyo was hosting the Olympics, and Cassius Clay was busy changing his name to Muhammad Ali.

Dad gave us the low down: “Owned by Clarke and Whiting, the station runs over 220,000 sheep across 2,430 square kilometers, employs 30 plus staff year-round and hosts up to 150 more during the shearing season”. Bloody hell, the man had done his homework.”Our vegetables will be supplied by a Chinese gardener whose patch sprawls across a chunk of the river down by a weir, and he grows enough for the Manager’s Chef, the Jackaroo, Ringer and Shearers’ cook and us lot. We’ll also be supplied with milk, mutton, and beef as there’s a cowboy” … Mum interjected – “A Cowboy? That’s his title? – imagine that on a business card – ‘Cowboy’ – Jack’s the name, wrangling’s the game!” “Yeah well, he also breaks in the horses” Dad responded. “Along with any stray woman who might wander into his posse” Mum retorted. (Mum had a ‘thing’ for Cowboys)

There was also a magnificent semicircular 52 stand shearing shed where up to 30,000 sheep were freed of their cumbersome, finely rippled merino wool jackets per season. The shed’s overwhelming presence, together with extensive sorting yards, dominated the perimeter of the property. Majestic. Iconic. And of course, the homestead, the diesel-powered shed, and the wool press required machinery to keep things moving. And a full-time mechanic to ensure it did. And that was my dad.

Casey, our Alsatian, emerged from beneath the chattels piled high in the back of our ute and made straight for one of three telegraph poles dotted across the quadrangle, nose lifted to the heady wafts of lanolin and sheep dung hanging in the still afternoon air. Shearing season. Business done, she returned and, with one hand on the dog’s head, the other on Mum’s shoulder as she, in turn, gathered me tightly under her arm, Dad whispered – “Well here we are darling!’”

 To be continued…

Positively sparkling with positivity…

Hi there lovely readers! As you’ve started to identify, I’ve declared this the year of positivity. Ok, ok, I know what you’re thinking – yet another of those pony tailed Yogi’s winsome ruminations on how to make the world a better place, regurgitated by Jane? Nah! Richard Branson actually.  

Have you noticed that the world’s biggest influencers and most successful people tend to be positive people? They usually see endless possibilities and empower others to feel the same, and, in turn, they actively create the ripple, the wave, the tsunami that moves the world forward.

Richard Branson penned and shared a great little piece (LinkedIn – Jan 2018) on positivity attitudes-are-contagious-yours-worth-catching the focus being on how positivity can breed positivity and how, by simply asking a question in a positive manner, we are more likely to generate a more positive response. 

Branson’s example: “We launched our three airlines Virgin Atlantic, Virgin Australia and Virgin America to provide consumers with better alternatives to existing options. But we didn’t do so by asking “Are you sick of the competition?” Instead, we asked, “Are you ready for the future of air travel?” Rather than focusing on everything that our competitors weren’t doing, or were doing poorly, we highlighted our unique offering and asked potential customers what it is they loved and looked forward to about flying.”

As Branson says, positive thinking is an incredibly powerful tool. Simply put: positive, proactive behaviour spurs positive, proactive behaviour. Let me give you an example:

Years ago I worked in a seriously toxic environment where, to have a good day, I had to consciously make it a good day. Ever the optimist I hoped that, by focusing on demonstrating positive, proactive behaviour at all times, I might just ignite similar behaviour. As Winston Churchill once said:

“The pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” 

 Damn it was tough, ‘fake it ’till you make it’ was often my mantra yet looking back, I’d found myself channelling a spot of Winston with a focus on:

  • wearing a smile at all times (incensing one fellow employee enough to spit ‘christ your always so fucking happy Jane, you make me sick!’ – she didn’t do mornings well)
  • surrounding myself with the more positive folk (who ended up forming a fabulous network that remains in my life today)
  • approaching challenges and problems in a proactive ‘can do’ manner (to keep the tyrannical leader at a distance)
  • phrasing my comments and questions to reflect positive outcomes a la Branson  
  • adopting a ‘can do’ attitude (anything to keep the team’s in positive spirits flowing)  

As Branson says – start simple; find a positive slant in every question you ask, display a positive outlook and you will find that people will gravitate towards you, and go out of their way to help you succeed.   

And did I survive? Yes. Did people help me succeed? Indeed. Positivity won out, still does. 

Graciously grateful…

Well, lovely readers, the literature I’ve read thus far indicates that 2018 will be the year we will actively step up our kindness, generosity and gratefulness. Well first up, let me tell you how grateful I am that you follow my blog and for your lovely comments both on the site and in person. Motivation to continue working on my wordsmith efforts.

For many of you, 2017 was a year you’d rather forget, and for a while I totally concurred. But why? What exactly had occurred that made me so willing to jump on that bandwagon?

Sure – dramatic changes at work made the daily gig a whole new challenge, yet we came through with a more efficient framework. Being the perpetual solo at group gigs made the heart a little tender, yet reinforced an appreciation for liberating independence. Succumbing to the most wicked flu in years, yet realising there are folk out there dealing with actual life threatening health issues.

Trawling through snaps from the year I suddenly realised that there were a lot more highlights than lows. In fact, I had rather a lot for which to be grateful. In the spirit of gratuitous oversharing, here’s my top 10 on the 2017 gratitude list:

Social Media:

Farewelling these two chaps – decision made to work in London and within one month they were gone, but not forgotten, thanks to social media. Enjoying my UK family’s winter during our sweltering summer via FaceTime. Cruising the Greek Islands on a vicarious vacation via friends’ Instagram feeds, or simply saying happy birthday through Messenger and FaceBook to make someone’s day. Thanks Pete & Mark and FB friends and fam.

Rebellion:

Visiting this wonderful woman, here with her son and daughter in law – her positivism despite her confinement an inspiration, her history rich with amazing experiences – and her demand for fish and chips over pureed vegetables wickedly rebellious. Thanks Jen, Ross and Mum Lyons.

The richness of family:

They say the family who plays together, stays together and this one’s a shining example. Here a surprise birthday and 50th anniversary celebration for the matriarch and patriarch of a family.  Over the years I’ve observed the guests of honour exercising their entrepreneurial chops while raising these kids, then nurturing their grandkids, plus the odd hanger’s on, into the fine tightly knit family they are today. Grateful for your guidance Pete, Lyn and fam, all of you! x

Food for the soul:

The GOMA for artistic brilliance – furry walls, Marvel comic heroes, giant sized women, fallen elephants. QPac for cultural fixes – The Play That Goes Wrong, Modern Citizens Oz Circus, Kinky Boots, the Pink Floyd ExperienceThe Kransky Sisters. The Tivoli for a Wa Wa Nee, Pseudo EchoHuman League blast from the 80’s. Grabbing movies with the Cheapskate Gang, so named for their love of 1/2 price Tuesday movies at the Blue Room, food and wine delivered directly to your seat, a lovely mid week ritual – all food for the soul.

Friendships old and new:

Catching up with this lot from a childhood in the rural 70’s –  the same fabulous school buddies, all of us just a tad older and wiser. Thank you Bill, Ian, Kenny, Di, Chris and Debra.

As well, for the many precious moments spent with loyal and loving friends over home cooked dinners – celebrating enduring friendships. You know who you are.

This lovely man:

Drives in the country, exploring markets and savouring new taste sensations.  Chilling with Netflix marathons, debating the meaning of life, the value of bitcoin, John Snow’s potential global dominance and fixing blocked drains – the lovely man providing the lesson that independence can, in fact, go hand in hand with love and companionship. Thank you JB.

My lifetime family:

A day’s worth of flights to celebrate Sis and her hubby’s birthdays in rural NSW,  a chance to reconnect with the whole lovingly dysfunctional family. Flying this Mum of mine up for a holiday to celebrate our July birthdays, a small appreciation for the woman who birthed me while just a teen, then left a husband that didn’t deserve her to raise me in the west – respect for her brilliant parenting and ‘can do’ attitude. Love you fam!

Playing dress-ups:

Getting my 70’s mojo on while revelling in another birthday celebration, this one for that crazy guy in the pink Zoot Suit, complete with mirror ball, cubed cheese and cocktail onion hedgehogs and a rocking 70’s play list to which I knew all the words – memory intact. Thanks David and Andrew and gang!

My daytime family:

Having fun with the team, most of whom have been right there beside me for years, our well oiled machine dedicated to our purpose – making a difference in people’s lives. I’m eternally grateful for their expertise, guidance, friendship and support Julie, Carly, Danielle, Kellie, Deb and Maree.

Cheap flights

Melbourne to celebrate another dear friend’s birthday with these guys. Yo! Stewie & Clinton, Tab and Iain.

Hay for Christmas with family.

Sydney for New Year fireworks with the guys below – all serving as a reminder of the love for my family; of lasting friendships – and the joyful value of sharing all life has to offer.

Grateful indeed!

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